The best things I read in February

How about a listicle to end the month?! WHY NOT. I’d like to start collecting some of the best things I read the previous month. Shameless easy-out on a blog post? MAYBE. Delightful romp through my learnings of the past 30 days? MOST DEFINITELY. Ok, enough shouting. On to the good stuff… what I read…More


You know that feeling where you get so annoyed by the mess in your house and by the person who leaves his stuff EV-ERY-WHERE, then you go on a tear and start cleaning everything and realize that it’s actually YOUR stuff that is EV-ERY-WHERE and that it is actually YOU who is the slob, and…More

Grateful for the struggle

At the risk of overselling the power of mantras (I am no big fan of The Secret), practicing my three mantras has really changed the emotional tone of my days. I’ve always struggled with anxiety, and speaking these to myself throughout the day has done something pretty marvelous to my sense of peace, calm, and humble…More

Finding the sweet spot for challenging our friends

There is such beauty in those friends who think well of us enough to believe we have the potential and ability to be better than we are. Friends who exhort us to be better, not in a shaming spirit (“you are not good enough as you are”) but in the way that sees what we’re…More

In-Between Thoughts 2.13.19: strengthening others against shame

Lifting update: I’m still seeing improvements and am consistently getting my strength back, a little at a time. Slow and steady works! Aaaaaand onto thoughts… On Tuesday Diane and I published a podcast episode on shame/guilt, and it was such a satisfying one to record because I struggle so much with shame. As such, I…More

Against anxiety: how I’m practicing the present moment

As I mentioned in my post on holiday reading, I end/start every calendar year by reading The Sacrament of the Present Moment by Jean-Pierre de Caussade. It is one of the most profound in-the-daily-living sense books I’ve read and reading it always stills me and gives me a sense of peace in my midst of my near-constant anxiety. I decided this…More

In-Between Thoughts 2.4.19: Simple, not easy

HOW IS IT FEBRUARY. HOW. I keep seeing people expressing relief at the end of an interminable month, but frankly, January zoomed by for me. I’m sure it probably helped that I started a new (great!) job and had my in-laws visit for 10 days — lots of good and fun things that made January…More