Deserving honesty

Honesty is a huge bug-a-bear for me. (Is that the expression? Whatever. If it wasn’t before, it is now.) I struggle with honesty, for several reasons. I don’t want to make people feel bad. I don’t like being wrong. I’m often wrong and people are harsh and judgmental about those who are wrong. I don’t…More

In defense of shame

I hold a rather controversial opinion. I think shame is good. Seriously. I like shame. I mean, I don’t enjoy –like shame, but I appreciate-like shame. I like what it does when working rightly. And I believe it can work rightly. This is not a popular opinion. Shame is mostly seen as a negative emotion,…More

At the Moment 6.12.19 – Summer Lovin’

It feels so good to be easing into summer. It’s one of our last full summers in Hawaii, so I want to make the most of it. Lots of hiking, SUPing, beaching, and rosé. I think it’s all doable. And I’m currently weighted-lunging to … make my legs worthless for doing any of the above.…More

Summer 2019 Plan

I love planning. LOVE. IT. Planning things gets me out of my sometimes-TOO-present head space, gets me excited about possibilities, and makes me feel really productive and efficient. I could plan all day! But of course, every plan needs to have follow-through to make it a good plan. Still working on that part. Ahem. I…More

The pain of hope

WHY IS HOPE AT TIMES SO REFRESHING AND AT TIMES SO BRUTALLY PAINFUL. WHAT IS UP WITH THAT. Psychologist Erik Erikson (creative naming, Erikson elders) has argued that instilling hope in our children is one of the most important tasks of a parent. Hope is affiliated with security, confidence, and a good sense of self.…More

The best things I read in May

I know, I know… another reading listicle. If I were more on top of reading things, I could space these out more. Alas. May was a good month! I was able to read for fun for half of it, and finish some good stuff. So without further ado, let’s dive in. For your to-read pile:…More