Honesty is a huge bug-a-bear for me. (Is that the expression? Whatever. If it wasn't before, it is now.) I struggle with honesty, for several reasons. I don't want to make people feel bad. I don't like being wrong. I'm often wrong and people are harsh and judgmental about those who are wrong. I don't … Continue reading Deserving honesty

I hold a rather controversial opinion. I think shame is good. Seriously. I like shame. I mean, I don't enjoy -like shame, but I appreciate-like shame. I like what it does when working rightly. And I believe it can work rightly. This is not a popular opinion. Shame is mostly seen as a negative emotion, … Continue reading In defense of shame

I love planning. LOVE. IT. Planning things gets me out of my sometimes-TOO-present head space, gets me excited about possibilities, and makes me feel really productive and efficient. I could plan all day! But of course, every plan needs to have follow-through to make it a good plan. Still working on that part. Ahem. I … Continue reading Summer 2019 Plan

WHY IS HOPE AT TIMES SO REFRESHING AND AT TIMES SO BRUTALLY PAINFUL. WHAT IS UP WITH THAT. Psychologist Erik Erikson (creative naming, Erikson elders) has argued that instilling hope in our children is one of the most important tasks of a parent. Hope is affiliated with security, confidence, and a good sense of self. … Continue reading The pain of hope