My favorite mindfulness book to read at the end of the year. I love fresh starts, arbitrary though they may be. I love new years and the opportunity (though no special one was needed) to evaluate the past 12 months, check in with myself and my well-being, take stock of my relationships, and think about…More

Power addendum

I just read that a majority of white women in Alabama voted for Roy Moore. White Women Keep F*cking Us Over (Apologies for the language.) I want to think through this more before saying anything definitive, but I do have some initial thoughts. I agree that white women are a problematic group in the US,…More


The whole political scene in America has been downright depressing if not obscene lately. I just want to go to sleep and wake up when it’s over, but also want to quit my job to spend a thousand hours a day fighting fascism, injustice, racism, sexism, and cruelty. Exhaustion and motivation make for a more…More

At the moment…

Sunrise on one of my morning runs along the Ala Wai Canal.  Currently consuming my thinking and processing: This administration and Congress are exhausting. I’m trying to figure out a balance between staying well-informed so I can act when needed and where possible, and being too informed and thus riddled with anxiety and despair. If…More

Rejecting Paulianity

After the recent Roy Moore allegations and the Moore-supportive stances of some members of the Republican party and evangelical church, it has never been more clear to me how so much of the American Christian church is morally and ethically bankrupt. The church is failing its people, is failing the poor and the suffering. It…More

The freedom of “I don’t know”

We are a culture of certainty. We don’t know much about what we believe or why, but we are certain that we do believe things and we will assert those beliefs with certainty, with conviction, even with aggression. We applaud those who have firm, set opinions and tend to look down on those who don’t…More

How to spend a long weekend on Oahu

And now for something completely different! A dear friend of mine visited us on O’ahu a few weeks ago, and we packed so much into three short days and I took so many pictures that I thought it could be a good opportunity to share my recommendations for visiting this lovely little spot in the…More


Part of the book I’m writing focuses on friendship and what friendship means for our sense of self and our “becoming Authentic.” One thing I keep coming back to is the value of having friends who think or believe differently than we do. Friendships are grown out of discovered shared interests, but of course we…More

Emotions and authenticity

Whoosh, what an emotional week this has been. Due to events that I can’t talk about in this space, I am struggling mightily with what feels like ALL the negative emotions: frustration, anger, depression, anxiety, F*CKTHISSH*TIMOUTOFHEREitis, you name it. I’m not always sure what to think about emotions, but I am trying to manage them…More

School is for learning, not performing

Right now my husband and I are in Hawaii so he can get his PhD in physics. While this is great for him, it has posed some, shall we say, frustrations for me. Without going into too much detail, let’s just say that due to the high cost of living here and crappy job market…More