We can do big things

I am on my way to being fully vaccinated! I got my first shot a couple weeks ago and have my appointment for shot #2 coming up. While my first impression was a deep sense of relief at being able to protect myself and protect my community from the spread of COVID, I came away…

Emotions as needs

Nearing 40, I am learning things I wish I had learned a long time ago. I've long been able to identify my emotions; I may not have had full emotional intelligence per se, but I had a grasp on what I was feeling and why. I have always found emotions to be philosophically rich, a…

Listen to me

Lately I feel like so many men in my life refuse to hear me. I am so tired of having things I say immediately - IMMEDIATELY - contradicted, without the other party even taking the time to consider and think through and ask questions about what I said. The arrogance and dismissiveness are astounding and…

When we have to lie to ourselves

Chris and I were talking this past weekend about how so strange and incredibly disorienting it is to think -- to really sit and think -- about the fact that everything is determined. As in, when you look at the macro world with its natural laws and causal connections forming each moment in its completion,…

The oppressions we permit

I recently read a Vanity Fair article on the many, many issues in Hillsong Church. It's horrifying. I have many thoughts about churches and church communities and the abuse or manipulation that is often excused as "tough, biblical love", but today I am mostly pissed at one thing: So many of these harms against women,…

The limits of selflessness

I've been going through some stuff lately (not much I can share on this public, though little-read, blog). One thing my therapist reminded me is that I am not in charge of other peoples' happiness. That's their job. My happiness is the only happiness I'm responsible for, and I need to let go of any…

My Indigenous Peoples’ Land Acknowledgement

I've talked about this a couple different times (why do I always think of land acknowledgements while lifting weights? The world may never know....). I am happy to say that I finally put together my Indigenous Peoples' Land Acknowledgement. Leaders in my organization encouraged us to put one together based on information and guidance from…