Does empathy translate?

Since I started my post on what I do to forgive myself, empathy has been big on my mind. Part of this has been self-centered -- I have always been seen as (and consider myself to be) deeply empathic. I believe the ability to empathize is twofold, being both a natural capacity and an action.…

What does “good” look like to you?

In the Hidden Brain episode "Did That Really Happen?", Shankar Vidantan and his guest, psychologist Dr. Ayanna Thomas, talk about how unreliable our memories are, specifically regarding visual memory. We are remarkably susceptible to the power of suggestion. If someone tells us we wore a blue shirt on Christmas when we were 12, we are…

Religion and unity

How do we get people to come to the church and make them feel safe and still remind them that they suck and are headed to hell?Omar Abreu, on their experience as a queer attendee of Hillsong Church, quoted from VanityFair.com It's been a long time since I have been out of my childhood home,…

Planks, planks everywhere

You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother's eye. ~Matthew 7:5 I've been thinking a lot about tribalism, biases, and the difficulty of transcending our intellectual and ideological blind spots. (Several great books on the topic, but the one…

Which reality?

As many of you know, I'm a little obsessed with truth and reality. I love learning and I want to know as much about this beautiful universe as I can. I also want to think as carefully, fully, and wisely as I can about the aspects of this world that we can't ever really know about (ethics,…

Beliefs and emotions

Light on Diamond Head on New Year's Eve morning. As I was muddling through some sweeping emotions and difficult life circumstances yesterday, I was reminded once again (even after writing about it extensively in my book) of the inextricable linkage between our beliefs and our emotions. In particular, I remembered how often beliefs give rise…