Listen to me

Lately I feel like so many men in my life refuse to hear me. I am so tired of having things I say immediately - IMMEDIATELY - contradicted, without the other party even taking the time to consider and think through and ask questions about what I said. The arrogance and dismissiveness are astounding and…

In-between thoughts: wtf

I don't have a lot of coherent, non-ragey, non-heartbroken thoughts right now, especially while grunting and sweating through a progressive overload leg workout, because of THINGS. So here is some ramble. How are we supposed to keep going with normal life? There is a pandemic. Fully one of two of our political parties are fine…

We do what we have been rewarded to do

I was listening to a podcast that featured an addiction researcher, and he was talking about how addiction manifests in the brain. He highlighted our learning method, which is something that has not evolved significantly since our ape ancestors: Trigger > Behavior > Reward My self-reward usually involves wine, books, and time to enjoy both.…

Changing policies, changing minds

There's a tension between standing up for what is right, unapologetically and strongly, and the need to "meet people where they are" to have a productive dialogue and, frankly, to having the best chance to change their minds. The first works well for policy changes, the second better interpersonally. I don't have much to say…

Power addendum

I just read that a majority of white women in Alabama voted for Roy Moore. White Women Keep F*cking Us Over (Apologies for the language.) I want to think through this more before saying anything definitive, but I do have some initial thoughts. I agree that white women are a problematic group in the US,…

Power

The whole political scene in America has been downright depressing if not obscene lately. I just want to go to sleep and wake up when it's over, but also want to quit my job to spend a thousand hours a day fighting fascism, injustice, racism, sexism, and cruelty. Exhaustion and motivation make for a more…