Emotions: intuitions that something, somewhere, is important

Intuitions are awesome; as a very intuitive person, I find intuitions to be incredibly exciting but also infuriating. Infuriating because while I get intuitions all the time, I can’t fully rely on them. Before I can follow an intuition, I need to understand what’s going on underneath it, to examine the basis of it, to…More

In-between thoughts: brain break

Thoughts between sets at the gym, from Friday, July 2. Today I went to the gym with absolutely no idea of what I was going to do. I just knew I needed a good, sweaty, fun gym sesh. Plus, I knew I needed to be good to my back; I didn’t want to do legs…More

Having the DTR with my books

The things around us help make up our daily lives. They shape it, color it, contain it, enable it. And this is why it can get weird to start to have complicated relationships with our things. I mostly experience this with books. I’m a perpetual minimizer — I will donate or throw away anything that…More

Why I stopped donating to Compassion, International

Last month I stopped donating to Compassion, International. For a little preamble, I work for a nonprofit. I feel passionately about the value of nonprofit organizations, about the work nonprofit folks do for their communities and the world, and I am committed to making a good career out of nonprofit work as long as I…More

Review: The Midnight Library by Matt Haig

I haven’t really reviewed a book in a while! I figured it was time. And of course I am choosing a book that is so widely beloved right now that I feel a little like I’m raining on the parade by criticizing it. But I feel strongly enough about my experience with the novel that…More

Habits, anxiety, existential crises (overly dramatic? never)

I’m reading slowly through James Clear’s Atomic Habits. Side note (I know, I know, I’ve not really even written enough to justify this as a “side” note, but whatevs): I’ve written about this before, which means I’ve been practicing this whole “reading slowly” thing and I’m delighted to say that it’s becoming more habitual (coincidental,…More

In-between thoughts: I guess I am a travel blogger now

Thoughts between sets at the gym. Hoo boy, first leg workout in a few weeks. If I can walk tomorrow I will count it a miracle. 1. I am still so very tired. I hate that exhaustion is such a non-specific symptom because it is so hard to pinpoint the cause and a solution. More…More

Does empathy translate?

Since I started my post on what I do to forgive myself, empathy has been big on my mind. Part of this has been self-centered — I have always been seen as (and consider myself to be) deeply empathic. I believe the ability to empathize is twofold, being both a natural capacity and an action.…More

How I am forgiving myself

As I was thinking through a particularly painful, fraught interpersonal issue the other day (the one that sparked my post on emotions and needs), I found myself getting fairly amped up and frustrated at myself for having let the situation go on as long as I did. Why didn’t I see it all earlier?! Why…More

What I read to fall asleep

Earlier this year I was in a real reading rut. I was tired of Plato, but I really needed to read Plato to keep up with my coursework. Reading anything superfluous made me feel guilty for not reading Plato so I ended up not reading anything at all. The thing that saved my reading life…More